The Danielle Ferris & Vincent Tomaselli Engagement
By Cat Zambito
It was a mutual love of football that brought Danielle and Vincent together at Finnegan’s, a sports bar in Thornwood, four Septembers ago. And while they were rooting for rival teams—Danielle for the Giants, and Vincent for the Jets—that didn’t stop the two from starting a relationship.
Danielle, originally from Rye, is an elementary school teacher at Bedford Road in Pleasantville, while Vinny works as an IT specialist out of their townhouse in Cortlandt Manor (where he grew up) for the company Matrix 42.
Vinny turned the "Big 30” in late September, so, to celebrate, Danielle planned a trip to the wineries in Napa Valley, CA in October. It ended up turning into a family affair, as Vinny’s mom and stepfather decided to join in the festivities, as they were also celebrating milestone birthdays, as well as their 20th wedding anniversary.
Not wanting to set herself up for disappointment, Danielle says, “I kept talking myself out of thinking that a proposal would happen on the vacation, but had definitely visualized it as a possibility.”
They spent the first day of the vacation relaxing and hanging out at the hotel, but it wasn’t until the following day that the real fun began. Robert Mondavi winery and Napa Cellars were on their list of stops for the wine trail the next day. After those, the last vineyard they visited was the beautiful Opus One, with its gorgeous terraces adorning the spacious grounds. Throughout it all, Danielle noticed that Vincent was acting very strange, “standing in awkward poses and sticking his butt out,” because, unbeknownst to her, he didn’t want her to feel the ring that was burning a hole in his pocket.
“Vinny’s mom was flashing away with the camera, trying to commemorate each moment from the day, which was making him very cranky,” Danielle says, so after some time his parents left them to go explore the rest of the winery.
When they were alone, Vinny starting telling Danielle how much he cared for her and that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. But they had had conversations like this before—plus, theyd' been drinking wine, which always brings out one’s emotions—so she didn’t see it as a definite sign of an impending proposal.
Then next thing Danielle knew, Vinny was down on one knee and asking for her hand. “I put my hands on my mouth and starting shaking my head in disbelief," she says. "Vinny started laughing and asked me ‘does this mean no?’”
Danielle assured him to the contrary, but was in such complete shock, that she actually didn’t cry (which even surprised herself). Afterward, she was "numb for the rest of the vacation.”
They plan on getting married next year either late September or early October, and want to keep the colors and theme within the rich and warm fall tones.
While they are still exploring venues, they know that they want to get married in Westchester and somewhere on the water with a ceremony preferably at Danielle’s parish church, Resurrection in Rye.
“Vinny is such an amazing guy and I couldn’t be happier. He is the most respectful, thoughtful person and always makes me feel like I am No. 1 all the time. I feel so fortunate to be marrying my best friend.